Welcome to the Connection

April 2022 Issue

Letter from the Editor

Dear Readers,

Happy spring to all my Adlerian friends!

Well, I guess here in Florida we go straight to summer at this point, but I’m sure many of you are enjoying blooming flowers and warmer weather. I so look forward to enjoying the beautiful weather, and seeing old and new friends in D.C. next month! I’ll be bringing along my 3 little kids and my mom so I’m sure you will see me running around the hotel! I wanted to thank everyone at NASAP who has put together so many resources, information, and opportunities to contribute to our friends in Ukraine. I truly believe when it comes to social interest no act is too small to make a difference. I joke with Calvin Armerding in our interview that I used to make a pretty triangle fold in the toilet paper at the inpatient drug treatment center where I worked for the next person. You never know how one simple thing can impact someone’s day. As Calvin says, reaching one family, and helping that family learn to cooperate is enough to make a massive impact as it trickles onto so many others. I strongly encourage you to check out Calvin’s interview as well as is website!
I wanted to also highlight Aubrey Black who is a 10-year old girl in my neighborhood who so courageously volunteered to provide art to this newsletter!

I hope you enjoy this edition, and as always if you have any questions or just want to connect please reach out to me! Next month’s theme will be Adlerian Play therapy. I’ve just recently started seeing younger children in my practice, so I look forward to the submissions for this theme!

Caroline FaifmanEditor

President’s Address

Greetings fellow Adlerians,

“Spring has sprung in Michigan, which means right now we have a lot of rain. I hope the change of seasons is finding you as well.

Tim Hartshorne,
NASAP President

My mind is very much on our upcoming conference in Alexandria where I hope to see everyone in person after a long break. Virtual attendance is a wonderful opportunity, and I know many of you will attend that way, but there is nothing like being face-to-face with an actual person, and not a rectangle on a screen.

This is one thing the world needs now. Face-to-face engagement. I was on a zoom call recently with members of our newest affiliate, the Ukrainian Association of Individual Psychology. It was an emotional experience. One sentiment expressed was the longing for hugs at the end of the war. I very honestly said I wanted to be there for those hugs.  I hope I can.

I want to express gratitude to the groups working with us in putting together the conference. In last month’s Connection you learned about the Parent Encouragement Program, one of our affiliates. In this issue you can read about the Mid Atlantic Adlerian Psychology Society, another affiliate. We are honored to also be teamed up with Bowie State University and their Student Adlerian Society. You will learn about them in our May edition, and also at a plenary session on Friday at the conference.  The assistance of all three groups has been invaluable in planning this conference.

Putting together a conference, and contributing to the success of an organization like NASAP, takes social interest. I was a sociology major in college, and in our theories class we read the work of Ferdinand Tönnies on gemeinschaft and gesellschaft, or community and society. Tönnies was describing the differences between small, intimate communities and larger urban living places. From our Adlerian perspective, we think about living in society but building a sense of community. I want NASAP to be described as gemeinschaft. Let us all work together to build that sense of community as members of our Adlerian society.”

Two Points on a Line


by Rodrigo Olvera

My professor of Basic Concepts of Adlerian Theory proposed today to think of a superhero with a dual identity with whom we identify and try to understand that dual identity holistically, according to the Adlerian principle of the unity of personality.

When I was a kid, the superhero I liked the most was Thor, in the 1966 version of the cartoon series (which was broadcast in Mexico in my childhood, in the 80's). I remember someone once asked me what I would like to be when I grew up, and I answered "I want to be Thor or a President who is very good with people".

I don't remember much about why I liked the character so much. I do remember it was because he could fly, that he caused lightning, and -of course- because he dispensed justice.

I understand the antithetical scheme between Donald Blake and Thor to be as follows:

  • Thor is an Asgardian god. He is extremely strong, agile, and swift. He uses his own strength and that of the elements of nature to dispense justice, protect the weak, and punish the wicked.

  • Donald Blake is an Earthling man. He has a disability that prevents him from walking properly. He uses his knowledge of medical science to heal the sick.

Dreikurs said that it takes two points to draw a line, and once the line is drawn one knows an infinite number of points (Terner & Pew, 1978). In this case, it seems to me that the line that can be drawn is between point a) Thor responding to the needs of the people using his strength and the elements of nature to protect and dispense justice, and point b) Blake responding to the needs of the people using his knowledge of science in therapeutic service to the sick. Thus, the unity of this dual personality resides in using one's abilities to respond to the needs of people.

Art by Aubrey Black, 2022

As I was thinking about this line between the two points, I thought about my own decision to enroll in the Master's program in Adlerian Counseling. In the interview for the admission process, I was asked if I wanted to pursue the Master's degree out of an interest to learn or out of an interest to practice. When I answered that my interest is to practice, I was asked if I was thinking of leaving my practice as a human rights lawyer; and I answered that my project is not to abandon my practice of human rights defense ("to protect and do justice") but to complement it with the Adlerian counseling services ("therapeutic service") both to victims of human rights violations as well as to human rights defenders. 

Relating those childhood memories of my fondness for those Thor cartoons with my current professional project has made me smile, with a dose of tenderness towards myself and my personal history.


References

Terner, J., & Pew, W. L. (1978): The courage to be imperfect: The life and work of Rudolf Dreikurs. p. 247.

 

We know what we are, but not what we may be

Why We Should Overhear Hamlet  by Reading out Loud His Soliloquies: This Will Facilitate Us to Know Ourselves Better and See Our Blind Spots  

By Christopher Eriksson, PhD


Introduction & Background

Using Adlerian psychology and specifically, Adler’s concept of gemeinschaftsgefühl, Eriksson (2022, Phoenix X+01) has illustrated how cultivating a heightened feeling of belonging and community can be personally transformative for all of us, leading us on to the emergence of a new, more creative Self. In Shakespeare’s case, this new and more universal Self inspires the plays, being described by Shakespeare in Sonnet 39 as the better part of me. The Fair Youth of the early sonnets is thus seen as referring to this new, rejuvenated creative Self, and not to some outer person. 

Through the insights of Jung’s Process of Individuation and the writings of renowned physicist David Bohm on the creative process, Shakespeare’s first new creative stirrings surely described by him as fairest creatures in Sonnet 1 that he wants more of, are seen as emerging into the bard’s conscious mind through his more receptive feminine side, the anima.

Hamlet’s Wild Detachment and Choice
"To Be or Not to Be: to continue to be the clever, bookish, intelligent prince or to be Courageous, Caring and Helpful to Others

In his book, How to Read and Why, Literature Scholar Harold Bloom describes Hamlet’s wild detachment and sees it as another of the Prince’s quests for freedom, freedom from Elsinore and from the world (2000, 203 - 217). To this may be added the social “freedom” in practice from having to consider anybody else, as he shows no interest in talking with others apart from maybe the Ghost. As Bloom says, it’s all theatre, his theatre, and the theatre is inside Hamlet’s mind. Yet it is clearly for our educational benefit too as Shakespeare writes it for us as his audience when we read the play or see the actual theatre.


Bluvshtein, (2021) in an article on the benefits of mindfulness, relates the outcomes of facing a problem and overcoming it (or not) to the famous soliloquy (one of seven) from Shakespeare’s Hamlet (Act 3, Scene 1):

“To be or not to be, that is the question, whether ‘tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles, and by opposing end them?”

Those who decide they cannot face their challenge, suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, and thereby forfeit and lose a sense of belonging and feeling that they have their place in life. Others, through standing up to their troubles, overcome them and grow. They take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing, end them. (Bluvshtein, 2021).

Quoting mindfulness as: “the awareness that arises from paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally” and reviewing it as a process of self-inquiry, Bluvshtein advances its cause in counselling by advocating for using metaphors whereby we are able to separate ourselves from our thoughts and look in, as it were, at ourselves. Of course, Hamlet is separated or detached from his feelings for others, and not from his thoughts.  As Nietzsche recognized and Bloom points out, Hamlet’s malaise is not that he thinks too much, but that he thinks much too well. Does he have the will to act? His soliloquies are about his thoughts and make good theatre as Shakespeare illustrates. And yet, Hamlet is not just good theatre, he is therapy for us as Shakespeare intended, especially if we will put on Hamlet, “overhear him,” or listen in on him, as we speak his words. Recognized as a universal counsellor Shakespeare shows us the tendencies of our human nature in a non-judgmental way. Bloom concludes, “Hamlet will clarify us”, meaning that in listening in on Hamlet, we will receive new insights into ourselves.

Adlerian therapy is well known for the “acting as if” technique whereby clients are invited to try on new ideas, new ways of behavior, and to “make it up or improvise” as if it’s pure acting for a part in a play. Shakespeare shows us his knowledge of this technique when Hamlet (Act 3, scene 4) berates his mother for marrying his uncle so quickly after his father the King’s death so that she can stay Queen. Hamlet says:

“Assume a virtue, if you have it not, that monster custom, who all sense doth eat, of habits devil, is angel yet in this…”

Polly (2015) recommends that clients read out aloud one well-known monologue or soliloquy that embodies the desired character strength. The advantages of reading it out loud rather than silently to oneself, are given as it sharpens your focus, connects you to your emotions and imagination, increases your vocabulary, leads to greater understanding, affords the opportunity to play, and exercises your body. And we may add that since somebody will be listening when we read it out aloud, we will likely do a much better job and have the opportunity to hear how we did, and which parts seemed to have more meaning.

Shakespeare himself also shows the same detachment in his sonnets. Yet his detachment here is not wild as it is for Hamlet but is indicative of self-observation and non-attachment, desirable pre-requisites to letting go in order to grow and have new experiences. 

Grad and Zeligman (2017) reported that for college students who had experienced trauma which clearly includes Hamlet, meaning in life (and particularly the presence of meaning, rather than the search for meaning) is the strongest predictor of post-traumatic growth. Shakespeare tells us in this famous soliloquy quoted above that for Hamlet there is no existing meaning. Hence it is not surprising that Hamlet experiences no post-traumatic growth after the death of his father and the traumatic visitation of his father’s ghost. On the contrary, just about everybody dies at the end of the play, except his good friend Horatio who lives to tell us the tale. 

As Adler says, perception and the meaning we each give to an event are more consequential to us than just the event in itself.

References


How organizing bankruptcy can help our patients

Clinical psychology essay by Alain Drimmer

Alfred Adler stated that mental health is correlated with social feeling (Gemeinschaftsgefühl), and is inversely proportional to inferiority feelings. Let us see how it works in the following cases:

I have been following several patients. Two of them are in their 20s and have spent time doing nothing, and have been living at home with their mother for a couple of years. Another one is a bit older at age 35. He decided not to follow his engineer's successful course, learned leathercraft, and opened a workshop, but he is struggling and cannot work nor can he sell the few products he makes.

The problem with high-potential patients is that they usually do well in school without trying very hard, so they are not used to working consistently and persevering in front of difficulties. Therefore, they get by until it does not work anymore. (As I read on the Internet, the difference between a winner and a loser is that the winner tried one more time!)

Let us look at Michael, an only child, he is very smart indeed and knows it too. He consulted a colleague with his mother because of abuse of hashish and continued with me as my colleague retired. He lives with his mom, his father committed suicide 20 years ago. Michael used to smoke weed constantly and was addicted to video games. It was his way to keep in touch with his mates. He had problems relating to his peers. Many high potential people find it difficult to get along with their peers, so they develop a "fake self" to try to adjust, but of course, it does not work, as they still think and behave differently.

His other problem is that he comes from a wealthy family. His grandma sends him money every month so he has plenty of money in the bank and therefore does not need to work. In fact,

he is a spoiled child who does not pay for the consequences of his inactions.

We agreed with his mother, grandmother, and himself that the money would go into an account he could not use, so he would have to spend all the money he had saved. 

Now he does not live with his mother anymore but at his uncle's place where he pays rent. He has found a job in the civil service helping migrants, and little by little he has become independent and self-sufficient. As he no longer has too much money, he has learned how to manage on whatever he earns, cannot order pizzas as he used to, and has to cook for himself. He now attends a theater group, has joined a political party, exercises physically, and no longer hides his real self to have a social life. Going out with women is still an ongoing problem, as he prefers masturbating to facing the opposite sex. At least now, we can encourage him in his astonishing achievements, which would not have been possible as long as he lived on money he did not earn.


This case highlights a number of Adlerian concepts: using consequences instead of punishment, coming to a democratic decision through mutual agreement, siding with the client and his family, understanding his lifestyle and fully accepting him for what he is, and not for what he can achieve.

The second patient, Albert, an only child, is a perfectionist who stays at home, and plays games on the internet. He was diagnosed early as having “high potential”, and consequently believed that since he was a genius, he should do wonderful things all the time. He has to be the best at everything otherwise there is no point in trying. His father is typically a self-centered manipulator, who, having failed in his work and love life as an "unrecognized genius," expects high performance from his son. 

Albert was completely discouraged when I met him but decided to trust me. After working together for a few weeks, he chose to enroll in an art school, and as a star patient, he visited six of them before selecting one in eastern France. There, he socialized well with some of his university mates and was successful in getting his diploma, showing his numerous skills in art, poetry, and acting. However, he could not bring himself to work to earn a living. Since his mother resigned from her job last year, he has had to pay his way, and has accepted a part-time job in a local high school as well as working as a camp counsellor for the summer. He can now pay for his therapy. He also has a problem with the opposite sex. His dreams of romantic love mean that no woman can live up to his expectations. He also suffers from the negative image of his parents, as his father was violent with his mother. It is easier to fantasize about a perfect relationship than to experience rejection. This fear is so strong that it keeps him from trying.


In this case, we see how a young man, forced to earn a living, gets over his mental block. Reality has its own momentum and often the lack of money can help someone get over a neurosis. Furthermore, this young man is very courageous, as he never gave up on his therapy in spite of difficulties. He also shows social interest by helping people and making them happy, and it makes his life more meaningful. He uses art as a tool to deliver messages and improve the world, this is Gemeinschaftsgefühl indeed.

My third patient Aaron is suffering from a schizoid personality as defined by Richard Erskine, (i.e., high expectations from the parents, which become internalized by the patient in a quest for perfection). We Adlerians would call it over-ambition. He spends most of his time criticizing himself and other people, stays alone a lot, and sabotages his endeavors so as not to experience rejection and criticism.

He was worried about money and not having any savings left so I urged him to continue until he was broke. I showed him that he should not be afraid of his bankruptcy as I myself remember how I organized my own bankruptcy, and how it was useful to get back to work and adjust. Well lo and behold, he is still managing, teaching from time to time and somehow getting by…

The Adlerian concepts illustrated here are the courage to be imperfect, uncovering the patient’s goals, providing encouragement and understanding and experiencing the consequences of one's actions. 

A Statement from the Mid Atlantic Adlerian Psychology Society (MAAPS)

MAAPS is one of the Affiliates helping to organize the Alexandria conference.

We are a group of working professionals who seek to promote the principles and core values of Individual Psychology. We are based in the Washington, DC area and have a strong and growing relationship with Bowie State University (BSU) and its Student Adlerian Society (SAS). BSU is a historic HBCU and has had an enduring connection with Adlerian Psychology; prominent Adlerians such Dr. Hal McAbee, Rob Guttenberg, and now Dr. Cubie Bragg have or currently call BSU their home. 

In 2020, we partnered with BSU and SAS and held an Adlerian conference that headlined Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis, a preeminent voice and leader in the field and spouse to the late Dr. Albert Ellis. We have partnered again with SAS and will have a conference in April of 2022.

MAAPS seeks to diversify the Adlerian community by introducing culturally distinct perspectives and voices into the Adlerian cannon. Our primary goals are to expand our network and to create an open dialogue with our community that explores key Adlerian concepts and contributions as they relate to mental health and our current social-cultural reality.  

As an organization, we envision ourselves as change agents and aim to organize content and programming that promotes equality, social justice and activism, social interest, and hope.

Currently, we are in a state of transition and are seeking Maryland-based professionals interested in joining our board. 

We value our affiliate status with NASAP and look forward to working with them in the future.

Video Recordings on Gemeinschaftsgefühl
& Social Interest

 

New collection

from Marina Bluvshtein, Ph.D. & Adler University on Adlerpedia

 
 

Plus

From a series on Belongingness happening this month:

 
 

Click the above imagesor more information & registration for these events!

Adlerian Spotlight

Katie Evans

1.     Tell us about your personal, and professional background with Adlerian psychology.

To say the least, I grew up in an Adlerian household. Through my father, mother, stepfather, and stepmother I have been well immersed in the teachings of Adler and the world of counseling. My mother and father each own their own private practice and Adlerian psychology has been at the core of their theoretical orientation. 

I am currently a graduate student studying clinical mental health counseling in Savannah, Georgia where I am excited to start implementing my own take on Adlerian Psychology. 

2.     Growing up in an "Adlerian household", how did your family teach you about social interest and cooperation? 

Growing up in an Adlerian household allowed me to have autonomy and a voice at a young age. The guidance I received from my parents was supportive, knowledgeable, and encouraging which allowed me to make an intrinsic choice regarding how I was going to move towards others and contribute to the world around me. Our household implemented weekly family meetings where we learned the importance of encouragement, cooperation, and problem solving within the family dynamic. The idea of helping others was a core value. Much of what I learned growing up are still core values that I honor today. 

3.     What are your professional goals as a counselor? 

My aim is to own a private practice working with individuals and couples. I hope to work with individuals helping them to connect to and enhance their relationships with themselves and others. I have become passionate about wanting to work with clients and their sexuality. I hope to integrate the above in my private practice. I look forward to connecting with other counselors in the Adlerian world through conferences and professional experiences. I plan to contribute to the world of Adlerian Psychology following my father and mother. Lastly, I ideally want to work with individuals through counseling but also through breathwork, movement, and partner work. 

4.     How can we connect with you? 

I look forward to attending future conferences but the best way to connect for now is through email, katarinacevans@gmail.com.


Summary of What’s The Story?

a book club with a twist in which we read and interpret a person’s perceived important memories

To celebrate our third anniversary, we honored the memory of Rudolf Driekurs by reading and interpreting his Family Constellation (FC) and Early Recollections (ERs). Yes, Dreikurs’ birthday (February 8, 1897 – 125 years ago in Vienna) coincides with “ours”!

Settling in Chicago because of political upheaval in Europe (think Nazis), Dreikurs spread Adlerian Psychology throughout the world.  Among many achievements, he founded the Adler Institute (now Adler University), the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP), and the International Committee for Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes (ICASSI, popularly known as the Rudolf Dreikurs Summer School [this year’s will be held July 24 – August 6, 2022, in The Netherlands])…

Rudolph Dreikurs

Alyson Schafer Conference News

Adlerian Psychology

Presented by: Alyson Schafer, BCs, MA Counselling

Alyson Schafer, BSc, MA Counseling, is a 3rd generation Adlerian, with a Master’s degree from the Adler School (Toronto). She has been an active participant in the boards and committees of The North American Society for Adlerian Psychology (NASAP). She has also been faculty at the International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes (ICASSI).

Alyson is a family counsellor in private practice in Toronto, Ontario, Canada and is also one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She is the resident expert on many national TV and radio shows, as well as hosting her own TV show “The Parenting Show” and the podcast “Parenting The Adlerian Way”.  

Alyson has three best-selling parenting books with Harpers Collins Canada: “Breaking The Good Mom Myth”, “Honey I Wrecked The Kids” and “Ain’t Misbehavin’. Her books have been translated into many languages. Alyson has spoken around the globe, including Bulgaria, Uruguay, Belgium and Switzerland. You can find Alyson’s parenting tips on any of her social media channels, including her popular Facebook group for parents of teens.


6 CEs approved by the Maryland Boards of Professional Counselors & Social Workers


Contact LCPCM
www.LCPCM. org
443-370-1255

Morning Presentation: A Primer to Adlerian Psychology

Adlerian psychology has not had the recognition in the training institutions that it deserves. In this workshop, Alyson will introduce the key tenants and some of the therapeutic tools and techniques that you can begin applying in our practice right away

Learning Objectives:

  • A short history of Alfred Adler and his place in the development of modern psychology

  • An overview of the unique ways that Adlerians understand human behavior and the core tenets of Adlerian psychology

  • Adlerian clinical tools; Lifestyle; Early Recollections, Birth Order, Family Values / Family Atmosphere / Most Memorable Observation and the Miracle Question

Afternoon Presentation: Working with Families of Teens

Alyson will use demonstrations and case studies to bring the morning’s learning to life.  We’ll dig deeper into issues facing teens while they are “adulting” in 2022, and how to support the family during often volatile times.

Learning Objectives:

  • Learn the difference between the DSM -V diagnosis of teen depression and teen anxiety as compared to an Adlerian perspective/case conceptualization

  • Understand youth culture and the unique struggles facing teens today

  • Discover how influence is more powerful than control with youth


Friday, April 22, 2022

9:00 AM - 4:30 PM Central

Interview with an Adlerian: Calvin Armerding

From the Adlerian Professionals/Integrated Professionals (AP/IP) Section:

 

On Purpose.

The Adlerian Professionals/Integrated Professionals (AP/IP) Section of the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP) has created a series of videos
called the "2-minute Adlerian".


In this episode, The Adlerian Professionals/Integrated Professionals (AP/IP) Section of the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP) has created a series of videos called the "2-minute Adlerian".

In this episode, Dr. Benjamin Rader interviews Drs. Jennifer N Williamson & Dan Williamson, co-chairs of the Theory, Research, & Teaching (TRT) Section, on the topic of Purpose.

Check it out on the NASAP YouTube Channel and Subscribe for more Adlerian Content coming soon!

 
 

From the NASAP Public Relations Committee

NASAP Calendar

The new website continues to grow with the addition of an Events page and Calendar at the bottom of the Home page. All affiliate events and section events will be added to these pages for easy access. There is a TAP Talk page and a NASAP Affiliate Sponsored Programs page under the Training tab. Send in your information a month in advance so the program can be listed in a timely manner.

Contact:
Jess Minckley
Public Relations Chair

NASAP.Publicity@gmail.com

 

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More About the Upcoming Conference

 

Conference News.

It’s coming! Get excited. More information about the conference on the NASAP Website:

 
 
  • Registrations are rolling in for the conference and we are getting excited about the big event. Hotel rooms are also going quickly so be sure to book your hotel room early so you don't have to find different lodging for the conference. For information and the link to the hotel registration, visit the Hotel page on the NASAP website.

  • Do you enjoy taking pictures? Are you planning on coming to the conference in Alexandria, VA? NASAP is in need of someone willing to take pictures that can be used for future promotional activities as well as to share on the website. Please contact Susan Belangee if you are interested. susanbelangee.nasap@gmail.com

  • We are creating a photo gallery of pictures on the new website from the NASAP conference, COR meetings, and affiliate events. Please send any images you would like to share to Susan Belangee at susanbelangee.nasap@gmail.com. Please make sure you send them as .png or .jpg files that are 500 KB or less. Also, please include information about where the pictures were taken and who is in the pictures (if specific people vs. group shot).

  • Did you know that you can be a sponsor of the NASAP conference for as little as $100? There are several levels of sponsorship for this year's conference, something to fit every budget. Advertise your private practice or coaching or consulting services! Share information about a book you recently published or will be publishing. Information can be found on the Sponsorships page under the 2022 Conference tab on the website.